I declared that of all the gin joints of all the worlds reddit is the worst.

Here is a cozy gin joint, brainpickings, a blog by Maria Popova. It has unique healing power, no matter what problem you are facing. I donated 50 bucks to brainpickings for teaching me yes to life in spite of everything. There are so many great posts on the existential solitude faced by so many great minds. Although it is always you who make your life choices, those great minds make you much more well-informed (at least, you will learn that you are not alone). You may start with 13 Life-Learnings from 13 Years of Brain Pickings, which contains a list of posts Maria Popova mostly enjoyed writing. Some more examples are:

• Rilke on the Relationship Between Solitude, Love, Sex, and Creativity
• Love Is the Last Word: Aldous Huxley on Knowledge vs. Understanding and the Antidote to Our Existential Helplessness
• Carl Jung on Life and Death
• Walt Whitman, Shortly After His Paralytic Stroke, on What Makes Life Worth Living
• Sylvia Plath on Living with the Darkness and Making Art from the Barely Bearable Lightness of Being